I’ve often said rather jokingly (or not) that parenting is a crapshoot. You never know how your children will mess up or how they will turn out. Sometimes you need to look longer and at the bigger picture.
My daughter who is now a mother discovered that her little sister had a hicky on her neck over the weekend. She was shocked and horrified. She immediately apologized to her mother and me for all the things she had done over her teen years – I tell you her becoming a Mother has given her a whole new perspective on love, dating, romance, and the like.
It has certainly been an up and down year as it pertains to our ‘wayward’ daughter (the one with the newborn). I had a long talk with her a couple days ago; she is understanding more and more not only the consequences of her actions but the enormity of how her actions have and are impacting others’ (particularly her daughter). Owning up to her previous actions, her stubbornness, her naivete’, it all contributes to making her a more sober, wiser, and dare I say more mature young lady.
I wish that it were not the case, but it certainly seems that the way we learn our most valuable life’s lessons is by making the wrong decisions and then having to pick up the pieces. It’s extremely hard as a parent to keep your mouth shut and let your children make the foolish decisions; knowing full well the pain they are inflicting on themselves and others. I understand a little more the enormity of how much God loves us – because He watches all of us make stupid, selfish, and self-serving mistakes all the time.
The lesson that I’ve been learning over the last couple weeks is simple, yet profound:
” Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” – Proverbs 22:6